Iikati zizilwanyana zomhlaba, ezinye zingaphezulu kunezinye, kodwa nganye kuzo kufuneka ibe nolawulo lwendawo ezihlala kuyo. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, xa ekuqaleni sithatha ikhaya elinye kuphela, kwaye kwiminyaka embalwa sithatha enye yobudala obufanayo, kunokwenzeka ukuba iingxaki ezinxulumene nendawo zivela, enye eyayisebenzisa isilwanyana esinye ngaphambili, kwaye ngoku iya kuba nayo. ukwabelana nomnye.
Kungenxa yesi sizathu ukuba abantu abaninzi bayazibuza indlela yokufumana iikati ezimbini zabantu abadala ukuze zihambelane ukusuka kusuku lokuqala. Kwaye imeko inokuba nzima kakhulu, kungekuphela nje kwiikati, kodwa nakwintsapho yonke.
Kunini apho ingumbono olungileyo ukuzisa ikati yesibini ekhaya
Ngaphambi kokuba ndingene kulo mba, ndingathanda ukuqala apha, ekuqaleni. Nangona kusibiza okanye kusidanisa, akusoloko kungumbono olungileyo ukuba neekati ezimbini ekhaya. Kuya kufuneka ucinge kakhulu kwaye ngocoselelo kuqala malunga nekati esele ihlala nathi, kwaye okwesibini malunga nokuba sinokukhathalela zombini. (Kwaye andibhekiseli nje kwiindleko zezoqoqosho zokunyamekela iikati ezimbini, kodwa nokuba sinokuchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye nabo, ukubanika inkampani, ukudlala nabo, njl.).
Ngokuphathelele inkazana yethu, kufuneka sizibuze, ubuncinane, oku kulandelayo:
- Ngaba sisilwanyana esidlalayo?
- Ngaba uyaphuma? Oko kukuthi, ngaba uyathanda ukuba kunye nabanye abantu kunye nabanye abanoboya?
- Ngaba ukhe wahlala nezinye iikati ngaphambili?
Ukuba uphendule ewe kubo bonke, okanye ezimbini zokuqala, kuya kuba mnandi ukuhlala kunye neekati ezimbini. Kodwa kunjalo kwaye konke, makhe ndikuxelele into: kungcono ukukhulisa kunokwamkela. Ngoba? Kuba ngale ndlela kuphela uya kukwazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ikati yakho, okanye ikati "entsha", iya kukwazi ukuhambelana. Ulwamkelo lunokuba lolwexeshana, okanye luqinisekileyo ukuba ekugqibeleni yonke into ihamba ngendlela obulindele ngayo.
Kwimeko apho omnye wabo, okanye bobabini, babeyinjana, kuya kuba lula kakhulu, kuba ukulungelelaniswa kwazo zombini kukhawuleza. Endaweni yoko, nabantu abadala kufuneka wenze izinto kancinci kancinci ukunqanda iingxaki ezivelayo.
Indlela yokwazisa iikati ezimbini zabantu abadala?
Ngomonde kunye nokuzola. Ukuba sikhe sibenalo ithuba lokujonga ikholoni yeemazi, siya kuyibona loo nto ngalo lonke ixesha ikati endala ifika, iqala ihlale kwindawo ebonakalayo kodwa kumgama okhuselekileyo. Kweli nqanaba lokuqala kuqhelekile ukuba kubekho ukuncwina, kodwa akuqhelekanga ukuya phambili (ngaphandle kokuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho ikati yasemazi ebushushwini, apho amadoda angekho i-neutered aya kuba novalo kwaye anokuhlasela. ezintsha).
Eli nqanaba lithatha iintsuku ezimbalwa okanye iiveki. Yonke into iya kuxhomekeka ekuziphatheni kwamalungu ekholoni. Omtsha ngelo xesha uya kusondela kwaye asondele kubo, kodwa kancinci ixesha ngalinye. Uya kudla aze aphumle kude nabo, esoloko elawula indlela abasabela ngayo abanye. Ngokukhawuleza xa ebona ukuba amaqabane akhe amatsha aqala ukuvula nokuvala amehlo abo ngokukhawuleza rhoqo xa bembona-into engumqondiso wokuzola nokuzithemba-, ukuba baphumle, bazilungise kunye / okanye badlale kufuphi naye, ngoko kuya kuba njalo. ube yinxalenye yekholoni.
Ukusuka apho, kancinci kancinci uya kubazi, sibe ngabahlobo nabanye size sibe ngamaqabane nabanye. Kungenzeka ukuba abantu abadala bekholoni sele bebavumela ukuba badle kwindawo efanayo nabo, into ngokungathandabuzekiyo luphawu oluhle kakhulu.
Kodwa, kwenzeka ntoni xa ezo kati zimbini zingaphakathi endlwini? Imeko yahluke kakhulu, kuba abanalo ithuba lokuya ngaphandle ukuze banciphise uxinzelelo; banokuya kwigumbi elithile kuphela, nangona eneneni lifana kakhulu. Ngamanye amazwi, indlela yokuziphatha abaya kuba nayo iya kufana kakhulu naleyo bebeya kuba nayo ukuba bebephesheya, yiyo loo nto kufuneka senze kube lula kubo ukuziqhelanisa.
Amanyathelo ndicebisa ukuba uwalandele ngokulandelayo:
- Ngokukhawuleza xa ufika ekhaya kunye nekati "entsha", siya kuyishiya ngaphakathi komqhubi kwigumbi lokuhlala, umzekelo, ukuze ibone ikati esele ihlala nathi, kwaye ukuze nayo ibone. Kufuneka ubavumele banukisene, ubazise ukuba kukho enye efana naleyo kwintsimi abaza kuyabelana ngayo. Ukuba ziyafutha, kuqhelekile. Nokuba bayakhumshana kodwa emva kwamanyathelo ambalwa bahambe bazilungisa, singazikhathazi kakhulu.
- Emva kwemizuzu embalwa, sithatha ikati "entsha" kwindawo yendlu eyahlulwe ngumnatha. Ngaloo ndlela, baya kuqhubeka bebonana kwaye bevumba, kwaye siya kubanika ithuba. ukuya kwindawo apho banokuzola ngaphandle kokuba abanye bayabacaphukisa. Siya kubagcina benjalo kangangeentsuku okanye iiveki ezimbalwa, de sibone ukuba baqalisa ukufuna ukwazi omnye komnye, bade bavule baze bavale amehlo ngokuthe ngcembe.
- Ukuqinisekisa, siya kubeka i-feeders, ngamnye eyakhe kunye nenxalenye yakhe, ukuze batye kufuphi.
- Ukuba yonke into ihamba kakuhle, oko kukuthi, ukuba babonisa umdla ophilileyo komnye, bafuna ukudlala, kwaye abacaphuki okanye bagxininise, ngoko sinokususa umnatha kwaye sibavumele, ngoku, bazane kakuhle. Kodwa siya kwazi ukuba kufuneka sibuye umva ukuba omnye, okanye bobabini, banenkangeleko engaguqukiyo, iinwele zime esiphelweni, okanye ukuba uyagquma kunye/okanye meows kakhulu.
Yintoni enye enokwenziwa ukuze nivane nokwamkelana?
Ewe, ukusebenzisa iimveliso ezifana ne-Feliway, iipheromones zokwenziwa ezinceda ukuzola, kunokunceda kakhulu. Kodwa eyona nto ayenzayo zizinto ezinje Nika iinkonkxa zekati kubo bobabini ngaxeshanye kwigumbi elinye, isilwanyana sasekhaya kuqala esinye kwaye emva koko ukuze bamkele ivumba lomzimba weqabane labo, badlale nabo.Isishwankathelo: hamba nabo, kodwa uhloniphe indawo yabo.
Kwakhona, Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqinisekisa ukuba banezabo isondlo, isiselo, ibhokisi yenkunkuma kunye nezinto zokulala, njengoko ungquzulwano lunokuvela ngokukhawuleza xa nayiphi na le nto ingekho. Kwelinye icala, intsapho imele ibahlonele, yaye ingabanyanzeli ukuba benze izinto abangazifuniyo (umzekelo, ukufumana i-caresses engakumbi kunokuba kuyimfuneko). Ukwazi ixesha lokuyeka kubalulekile ngokwazi iimpawu zakho zokuthomalalisa.
Ngaloo ndlela, ekuhambeni kwexesha, basenokuba ngabahlobo. Kwimeko apho oku akunjalo, ukuba iinyanga zihamba kwaye imeko iyancipha kuphela, yinto efanelekileyo ukucela uncedo kwingcali.