Siye saxelelwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo malunga nekati ukuba isilwanyana esine-surly, esichasene noluntu, kwaye sizimele, kodwa ukuba sikhe sime umzuzwana siyibukele isebenzisana nabanye kwintsapho yayo okanye iqela layo lentlalo, ndingakuqinisekisa ukuba oku. intsomi iya kudilizwa ngephanyazo.
Isilwanyana esihlala nezinye iikati, kunye / okanye nabantu, sinesidingo esikhulu okanye esincinci (siya kuxhomekeka kumntu ngamnye) ngokudibana ngokomzimba. Kodwa masingaziqhathi: mayibe nguye osixelela ukuba ufuna ukuphululwa nini kwaye njani, kuba. I-caress ethandekayo, kwaye ke yamkelwe kakuhle, ingcono kunamakhulu anikwe ngexesha elibi..
Ndingayifuya nini ikati yam?
Kukho iikati ezingakuthandiyo ukufuywa, ubuncinane hayi ngokuthe ngqo. Kungenzeka ukuba bangathanda ukuhamba ngaphaya kwakho, ukuxubha emlenzeni wakho, kunokuba u-caress entloko, umzekelo. Bakhona ke abanye, abaya kuthi chu ukucudisa amehlo abo kuwe ukuze ubachole uze ugqithise isandla sakho emqolo, okanye ubaphulule, ubashiye phantsi kodwa unikele ingqalelo kubo.
Ngokwenyani, impendulo yalo mbuzo ilula: Kufuneka ufuye ikati kuphela xa ikhululekile.; oko kukuthi, xa uzolala, xa ugqibile ukutya, okanye xa uphumle esofeni okanye ebhedini. Kwimeko apho uyadlala, unovalo, unomsindo okanye uxakeke yinto ethile (ukuzilungisa, ukujonga into ethabathe ingqalelo yakhe, njl.njl.) kuya kuba ngcono ukuba ungenzi, kuba sinokufumana ukuluma okungenabungozi okanye "ukukhaba", kodwa leyo isenokuba yindlela yakhe yokuthi "ngoku andifuni ukuba undiphulule."
Ndingayifuya njani ikati yam?
Sonke siyayazi indlela yokufuya, kodwa ngekati kufuneka sibe… mnandi ngakumbi. Kuya kufuneka wenze iintshukumo ezicothayo, kwaye uphephe iindawo ezithile. Umzekelo, ngokubanzi esi silwanyana sithanda ukuphululwa intloko nomqolo ukuya kutsho ezingcanjini zomsila waso, kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba uwubambe ngokwawo umsila waso, imilenze yaso okanye isisu saso siya kukubonisa ukuba asonwabe.
Nangona kunjalo, ndiyaphinda: ikati nganye lihlabathi. Ikati yam uSasha uthanda ukubethwa entanyeni yakhe, uKeisha kwelinye icala ukhetha ukuchukunyiswa ekuqaleni komsila wakhe, kwaye ukuba uchukumisa intloko yakhe, uBicho uye waphumelela. Yonke into ukuzama. Kancinci kancinci uya kuyazi ikati yakho, ufumane ezo ndawo zikonwabelayo ukuphululwa, kunye nezinye apho ingakwenziyo.